I decided today to venture to the park in order to get out some wiggles. Our homeschool group meets every Thursday to socialize and play. We haven't gone too much this year because it is extremely exhausting for me. It can be challenging to keep an eye on all three littles at one time.
Things were going well. I was able to talk to a few moms and the kids were having a good time playing on the playground. I would constantly scan the area keeping an eye on my kids. Then, a mom came over asking if we knew who the kid was that was running away from the park towards the street. I looked up and could see Nathaniel taking off. Seriously, I had just seen him a few minutes before on the playground.
I wasn't worried because a group of boys were chasing him down along with another mother from the park. I didn't know this mother, but was grateful for her willingness to catch my son when I wasn't aware he had gone off. I headed toward the returning group to reclaim my son.
When I had him back with me, this other mother became furious with me. She said she was shaking she was so upset. She had yelled at the boys that had tried to chase down Nathaniel and now she had yelled at me. If looks could kill, I would have been a goner.
What lesson did I learn? You would think that maybe I learned to be more careful at the park. But, this is not the lesson I learned today. The lesson I learned was to extend grace to other parents who have appeared to be irresponsible. Now, I'm not talking about the parent who does not put their child in a car seat. Or a parent who repeatedly neglects their child. I'm talking about the parents who divert their eyes for a moment. No parent is perfect. I am not perfect and things happen. I need a ton of grace every day.
Heehee definitely grace - and the brightest most obnoxious green windbreakers (Gap sale rack!) so all three of our little ones match AND are easy to see even as a blur running by!
ReplyDeleteWhoa. Sorry that happened. :( I hope it didn't make your whole day gloomy. I have a hard time shaking things like that.
ReplyDeleteoh my word... girl-- do you know how many people have chased down my kiddos? or how many kiddos i've chased down or helped when they were hurt and their mom didn't see? i seriously cannot believe her-- sorry-- my feathers have gotten ruffled.. how many kids does she have? 1? we were at luke's cub scout ceremony the other day and noah was in my vision- i turned around for- i kid you not-- 10 seconds- and he had darted out an open door and was running outside by the parking lot...
ReplyDeleteand she yelled at you? seriously?
she's lucky i wasn't there. grr.
i got your back.
you're an awesome mom-- don't let someone tell you otherwise!!!
Emily, thanks for getting my back. You made me smile.
DeleteA little grace to the frantic mom too. It probably DID scare her to death, which can cause anyone to over-react. We all do THAT too sometimes, not that it is an excuse. As you said, no one is perfect...not on this side of heaven anyway. Lessons to be learned on both sides, forgiveness all around.
DeleteAdded note, whether you have ONE child or ten, they are gifts from God and your accountability to Him for these little souls will be the same, no excuses there either. In retrospect, she is probably sorry too, I always like to think so. I know I am when I over-react...=/
"The lesson I learned was to extend grace to other parents who have appeared to be irresponsible."
ReplyDeleteSo true. How easy it is to make quick judgments about people. If we could see people fully, as God does, then we'd end up responding more like Him: with compassion rather than judgement. What a good thing to be reminded of. Thank you.
I came over from RQ after seeing your adoption announcement. Congrats btw! We adopted our 6th back in Feb. We have two bio sons as well. And we homeschool. I have found in general HS Moms to be a bit more judgmental. :((( Not sure why, but just something I've noticed since we began homeschooling 4 years ago.
ReplyDeleteBTW, we lost two sons at Holiday World. Yep, on two back-to-back days. The security team I'm sure had a good laugh on our parts. Our younger son, 7, was literally walking 5 feet from me at the wave pool's edge to my husband seated in a chair. I turned away for 2 seconds and he was gone, and DH, who didn't know I was sending DS over to him, was like "he isn't here; where could he have gone in 2 seconds?"
He was still in the area, as the security people were on it and found him wandering around, but really it can happen so fast. I would have just smiled had I been the other MOm and said, "no problem; I have 4 sons! enough said!"
Congrats again on your new daughter!!!