I was laying in bed this morning thinking about attachment. I am almost positive that our little ones are going to have a hard time attaching to us. What dawned on me, however, is that I may not love them right off the bat. Loving them may not come naturally like it did with Lily. I pondered this and turned to the Bible to see what God's word says about love.
Of course, the first place to look is 1 Cor. 13.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
After reading through that list I realized that there is no mention of feelings. Love is NOT a feeling. It is what we do. 1 Cor. 16:14 says, "Let all that you do be done in love." Love is an action, not a feeling.
John 15:12 says, "This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you." Love is a command. God doesn't ask us to feel love. He commands us to love.
I will not hold on to the hope that the feelings of love will come. My hope is in Christ. Through Him I need to purpose to love my children. Christ is not looking for me to just want feelings of love, He wants me to act in love. All I need to do is follow the list in 1 Cor. 13. That IS love! When I am patient, kind, and not seeking for myself, etc., then I AM loving my children.